Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.



You may give them your love but not your thoughts,

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,



For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,

which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them,

but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.



You are the bows from which your children

as living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,

and He bends you with His might

that His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;

For even as He loves the arrow that flies,

so He loves also the bow that is stable.


~Khalil Gibran



I like this poem by Khalil Gibran. Yes, children come through their parents but not from them,
and children possess their own thoughts and their own soul, not their parents.
While parents can have a hand in nurturing and guiding children especially at the initial stage of their growth and development,
they need to allow freedom for their children to express their own authentic self and cultivate their own ideologies and belief systems.